Elderly man's dating secret: Should he tell his new crush about medical issues?

Two relationship stories about intimacy challenges in later life. A divorced man with health-related performance issues meets someone new‚ while a long-time married couple deals with changes in their physical connection

November 29 2024 , 10:38 AM  •  234 views

Elderly man's dating secret: Should he tell his new crush about medical issues?

A soon-to-be septuagenarian whose been single since early 2000ʼs faces an interesting dating situation. Anonymous shares his story: after enjoying single life post-divorce heʼs dealt with medicine-induced performance issues for about five years but now theres a new person showing interest

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Rachelʼs advice

The heart medicine side-effects dont need to be a permanent roadblock. Its worth exploring updated treatments or alternative medications that might have less impact on intimate life. Being up-front about the situation early-on could prevent future mis-understandings

In another letter‚ a long-wed couple deals with post-menopausal changes. Anonymous writer describes a four-decade marriage thats hit a rough patch: while they previously shared a fun-loving physical connection (including toys and massage)‚ nowadays intimacy has become non-existent

Female desire is often responsive - once they get started she might remember its not such a terrible way to spend the afternoon

Sophie Laybourne‚ relationship expert

The expert suggests several ways to re-build connection:

  • Talk openly about feelings
  • Remove pressure for performance
  • Focus on non-sexual touching
  • Create new ways of showing affection
  • Consider professional guidance

Both situations show how health-related changes impact relationships - but open communication and medical help can make a big difference